Tuesday, April 18, 2017

The right and wrong way to discipline a child

As Parenting and Wellness Consultant – one of the commonest questions I get asked way parents is – “How do I discipline my child?”
Almost every parent I know struggles with discipline.
Parents want children to do certain routine tasks on time and children often refuse to do them. And this usually results in a parent child conflict with the parent eventually yelling at the child and the child either yelling back or beginning to cry.

A lot of parents try to circumvent these shouting matches by bribing children with rewards.
So parents make statements like “If you eat your vegetables – you can have dessert” or “If you finish your home-work – you can watch TV”

While these bribes work the first few times – very soon when the child hears “If you do…..” he starts thinking “What if I don’t do…….”

And as soon as this thought comes into the child’s mind – what was meant to be a bribe becomes a threat.

The child decides to experiment with the threat to see if it will actually be carried out.
So he refuses to eat the vegetables and then cries and begs for ice cream. He refuses to do his homework and then throws a tantrum to watch TV.

And this results in a power struggle.

It is a mistake to get into a power struggle with a child because it is a battle you can never win.
The easiest way to get past this problem is to tag tasks with rewards instead of threats by using the word “when” instead of “if”
So instead of “If you finish your homework – you can watch TV” if you say “When you finish your homework – you can watch TV” it works in two ways
First it tags the task with a reward that can be got by doing a task – so it turns into a game and something to look forward to. Second it hands the child control. The child does not feel like he has to bend down and obey his parent to get something he wants – he is now in control. He can control how soon he gets what he wants. And this motivates him to move faster.

Changing one word can make a world of difference to your relationship with your child in your day to day life.

It is important to remember that children learn how to interact with the world by copying our behaviour. The way we interact with them is the way they go ahead and interact with the world.
One of the most important things children need to learn from us is – how to negotiate with others and make contracts that serve their purpose and yet are not unfair to the opposite party.  
Every interaction we have with our children – every sentence we say to them – is an opportunity for us to teach them something.

When we are in a hurry and focus on getting things done quickly – we use the wrong words. As a result – our children learn nothing.
Always pay attention to what you are saying because that is what your child is learning.
Watch the video – Mind Your Parenting Language https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8dsUXN-l_g

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Dr Debmita Dutta MBBS, MD Parenting and Wellness Consultant
Dr Debmita Dutta MBBS, MD is a practising clinician and a Parenting and Wellness Consultant. She conducts workshops on Parenting for schools and corporate organisations. She also consults with parents and hand holds them through their parenting journey. Read Dr Debmita Dutta’s blogs on www.whatparentsask.com. Contact Dr Dutta on 9611739400 and debmita.dutta@gmail.com

Thursday, February 16, 2017

Should my child go to an international school?

When moving abroad or within a country, one of your biggest concerns will be helping your children settle down into their new lives. With a new location comes the challenges of finding new schools, leaving behind old friends and making new ones, figuring out whom to trust, and a host of other stressors. Even if you have no such plans, you may be looking for a new school for your child. One of the important choices you will be making is between state, national and international curriculum based schools.

Studying in a state/national curriculum based schools has its advantages. The curriculum is more widespread, academically less rigorous, has many parallels to entrance exam syllabi, and comes at a relatively lower cost. CIE and IB schools are setting a high bar in education for a competitive world by bridging the gap between a global quality education and the Indian educational milieu. International schools in Bangalore offer high calibre programmes like Cambridge International Examinations (CIE) and International Baccalaureate (IB) that are followed around the world and recognised widely by universities.

-When international school students move out of the school, they will carry with them skills, experiences and knowledge that can help them adapt to a new location with far more ease than a student with a non-international schooling background.

-International school students are much better prepared for college and work life. They are equipped with a higher level of skills in communication, inquiry, time management, organisation, and interpersonal intelligence.

-International schools are more likely to invest in and utilize modern technology to help students accelerate their learning and assist parents in becoming more involved in their child’s education.

-International schools offer community service programmes, structured extracurricular activities and sports with better infrastructure, professional sports coaching, opportunities to compete in competitions with the world’s best institutions, and interesting field trips

-International school students cultivate an open-mindedness that comes from being exposed to  global cultures.

-International school curricula offer a variety of paths for pursuing a future career. Students can select a combination of subjects that suit their interests and strengths.

-Students are given opportunities to gain a strong command over the English language. They can hone their writing, reading, speaking and presentation skills and explore literary works from different cultures and eras.

-International schools offer Indian and Foreign languages in their curriculum, encouraging multilingualism.

.-Teachers of international schools are more accustomed to helping students adjust to new environments in case they struggle.

Whether you choose to enroll your child in an international school or not, your final decision must be based on the specific needs of your child. If you do decide to enroll your child in an IGCSE / IB school, ensure that you pick the best international school for your child. 

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

IB: Helping students take charge of their learning

In a school curriculum, the process of learning needs to be given equal or more importance than the content of what is being taught. Children deserve to be taught to “learn how to learn”. With widespread availability of learning resources online, this becomes even more relevant to our times.

International Baccalaureate (IB) courses emphasise the independent learning process. The process is woven it into all IB programmes. Starting with the IB Primary Years Programme (PYP), students are slowly encouraged to develop autonomy in learning. They are encouraged to discover connections between themes and topics. The IB Diploma Programme (DP) puts a greater responsibility on the students, by the means of the Theory of Knowledge(TOK) course. TOK helps them understand the intricacies of learning itself.

The process of self-directed learning

Self-directed learning is a formidable undertaking. Taking charge of one’s learning begins with the need or readiness to learn. IB school students may pursue learning activities individually or in groups. The teacher acts as a guide while students achieve their learning objectives. Students formulate their learning goals, while figuring out the various resources required to achieve those goals. Students then set out to create a timeline, chart out tasks and set milestones for the completion of their learning objectives. One example for a learning objective might be, if we were to improve the literacy rate in a village, what actions can be taken?

While the student completely drives the learning process, learning happens collaboratively, with input from various sources and feedback from teachers. Students of an IB school are guided to take more factors into consideration such as cultural beliefs of others, language barriers, and policies. Ultimately, it is the student who decides if the outcome of the exercise is satisfactory.

Benefits of taking charge of one’s learning

The process of taking charge of one’s own learning is transformational. This format of learning forces students to delve deeper into concepts and challenge their existing approaches to learning. It is a crucial way to pick up skills during the course of one’s career. Communication skills, self-reflection, teamwork, discipline, responsibility and curiosity are some of the skills IB school students develop.

Trio World Academy is one of the best international schools in Bangalore offering IB PYP and IB DP.  For more details about IB admissions at Trio World Academy, you can visit us here.

Sunday, December 4, 2016

Demonetization: what you can teach your kids about it

The demonetization of high value currency notes has been undertaken by the Indian Government to curb fake currency and black money in our country. This has been a welcome move. But, as a normal, tax paying and endlessly worrying citizens, we will face short term problems for the sake of long term gains. Even as we fret, we must explain this situation to our ever-observant and curious children, nieces, nephews and students. This is a historic economic move for the country and our future generation should well understand the motive behind it.
At Trio World Academy we have taken extra classes to make them understand the meaning and effect of demonetization in their level.

              What we can tell our kids about demonetization:

Things don’t always go as per plan. You will need to improvise and adapt

All the money that was set aside for groceries, clothes, vehicles, weddings or school expenses could suddenly be no longer used. Albeit with difficulty, the country adapted. We started using our credit and debit cards more often and businesses started accepting different modes of payment. When life throws up surprises, as it always does, we may need to find new ways to get things done.

Pay your taxes fully and on time

A large part of the country’s economic activity happens illegally, outside the government’s knowledge. Cash is hoarded away and spent as ‘black money’ i.e. money that was not declared to the Income Tax department and therefore returns were not filed and taxes were left unpaid. These transactions rob the govt. of revenues that can be used for the welfare of the country. So, the honest tax payer must pay beyond their share to compensate. So, it helps to declare your income and pay taxes correctly. 

Cashless payments are the future (and present)

Majority of transactions in India take place through cash payments. One might argue that in many parts of the country, people aren’t prepared for a cashless economy. However, card payments, internet banking, e-wallets, are here to stay and it is time we started using them as often as possible. 

Be considerate 

The demonetization move inconvenienced a lot of people when they least expected it. Senior citizens were forced to stand in long queues to have cash exchanged. Those who were comfortable with cash had no choice but to seek help to use new methods of doing transactions. Wedding preparations came to a halt. Travellers were stranded with old currency notes.  But strangers, old and young, came together in a heartening way to help each other. From mobile ATM services, bank employees putting in extra work hours, neighbours helping each other, and to families pitching in for weddings. We can start by being considerate to those near us because we are all facing the same difficulties. 

This is a great opportunity to innovate

We can also look to the new generation to come up with innovative solutions which make changes like these more manageable. Do they have ideas for making payments more simple? More transparency? Faster learning curve? It is time to encourage them to change the future!

All Faqs on demonitization by RBI - Click Here 

Wednesday, November 30, 2016

Differences between ICSE and ISC

Council of Indian School Certificate Examination (CISCE) is a highly respected and recognised board in India. The CISCE offers two examinations for different levels, namely, the Indian Certificate of Secondary Education Examination (ICSE) for Class X and the Indian School Certificate (ISC) for Class XII. Both have their origins in the Cambridge curriculum (IGCSE). CISCE examination scores are accepted by universities in India and abroad. The curriculum is extremely flexible and students can learn from a variety of subject books, instead of a single prescribed text book. Students of ISC and ICSE schools also have a wealth of courses to pick from. 

Here is the overview of ISCE and ISC exams:

Indian Certificate of Secondary Education (ICSE) -  Class X

Indian Certificate of Secondary Education (ICSE) provides a framework for a ten year course from Class I to Class X. The ISCE requires students to study six subjects as well as Socially Useful Productive Work (SUPW). To be eligible for  the examination, the students should have compulsorily completed the following:  A third language from at least Class V to Class VIII (Internal Examination), Art (Internal Assessment),  Socially Useful Productive Work and Community Service (Internal Assessment), Physical Education and Education in Moral and Spiritual Values. 

Students can select subjects from three subject groups. At the end of Class X, students appear for their exam through their respective ISCE schools, for subjects of their choice. Group I comprises of compulsory subjects: English, Second Language and History, Civics and Geography. Group II allows students to select two or three subjects from among Mathematics, Science, Economics, Commercial Studies, a Modern Foreign Language, a Classical Language and Environmental Science. Students can select any one subject from Group III. Students are not allowed to pick the same subjects from both Group II and Group III. They are to typically offer both Science and Mathematics from Group II.

Any of the valid subject combinations will be accepted into ISC (Class XII)

Indian School Certificate (ISC) - Class XII

Indian School Certificate (ISC) is a two year course, offered in English. A student can apply for Class XI after successful completion of Class X or its equivalent. It is not applicable to private students.
A student who has passed English and four other written subjects under their respective, recognised board at a Class X / equivalent examination taken at the same sitting may be considered eligible for admissions to Class XII. 
A student who opts for ISC has English as a compulsory subject and can have three, four or five elective subjects. SUPW and community service is also compulsory. Class XI examinations will be graded internally by the school and the Class XII examinations will be evaluated externally by the Council.
Trio World School is one of the fastest growing ICSE schools in Bangalore. Trio currently offers ICSE up to Class VII, and has a well defined future roadmap leading up to ISC. 

Friday, November 11, 2016

How to prepare before starting with IB DP

If you are a student who has enrolled into the International Baccalaureate (IB) Diploma Programme (DP) or the parent of a future IB DP student, you can be assured that commitment to the programme lets one chart a steady course towards university. The IBO also collaborates with certain universities for developing recognition policies for accepting IB graduates.

According to the IBO, DP a student has the option of selecting courses from six subject groups, three of which will be taken at standard level (SL) and three at higher level (HL), with two mandatory languages.

The compulsory core comprises of

·         Theory of knowledge(TOK)
·         Extended essay
·         Creativity, activity and service

Preparing for the IB DP

Studying the syllabus: Obtaining a syllabus beforehand from your school is a great way to familiarise yourself with what you will be studying during your IB DP years.

Language and literature: IB lets you deepen your expertise in a language you have a strong command over, through studies in language and literature. One also has the option of obtaining a bilingual diploma by opting for studies in language and literature in 2 languages. A student can explore the type of literary texts that will be analysed for this purpose.

An IB DP student also has to read, analyse and assimilate works studied in translation. By exploring such works well in advance, with the help of a good quality translation, a student can grasp the delicacy of interpreting a translated work and prepare for their assessments in the same.

Examination pattern and schedule: The IBO publishes sample examination papers and the examination schedule for the forthcoming sessions on its website. The availability of these details beforehand will help you make long term plans for your school work as well as your university placement preparations.

Managing deadlines: Theory of Knowledge (TOK) is a mandatory component of the IB DP Programme. TOK assessment consists of an oral presentation and a 1600 word essay. The extended essay component of the core requires the student to produce a 4000 word long essay, which is self-directed and based on their own research. The school will set deadlines based on the IB guidelines. Each of these essays require considerable time and effort. Planning ahead will help you step into IB DP with confidence.

Trio World Academy is one of the most distinguished international schools in Bangalore offering IB PYP and IB DP> For more details about IB DP admissions at Trio World Academy, you can visit us here

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

8 things you should say to your child

In an earlier post titled ‘Things you should not say to your kids during exam season’, we examined some phrases which might be detrimental to your child. Words can be used to heal or harm. When used in the right way, the right words can bring you closer to your child. It can give them a sense of safety, encouragement, confidence and inspiration.

Here are some of the things that you can say to your child often:

1.    Listen to them: Listening is often more important that speaking, during a conversation. You might be surprised that you do not know all the problems that your child is facing at school or with peers. Make it known that despite your own busy schedule and stress, you acknowledge their concerns.
2.    I am here for you: Assure them that no matter what they are going through, you are available to support them. This does not excuse them from being accountable for their mistakes. However, they need to know that you will stand by them as they work their way through any situation
3.    Appreciate the effort: “I really appreciate how hard you worked for … “ or “You put in some great efforts to ..” helps your child know that the process and effort matters as much or even more as their achievements at the end. Motivating them to put in more hard work is a lot easier from this place.
4.    Offer specific praise: Eg. “You have organised your study schedule very well, with sufficient time for revision and play.” is an example of praising a very specific effort of your child. It reflects your own part in taking the time to understand your child’s efforts. It shows that you notice and care.
5.    You do not have to be perfect: Setting absolute perfection as the standard can make your child feel disappointed and demotivated. Letting them know that trying for massive improvement and excellence over perfection sets the tone for far more progress.
6.    I love you: Failures, challenges, mistakes and difficult days should not change the fact that you love your child. Remind them of this everyday.
7.    I believe in you: Let your children know that you believe in their abilities, talents and dreams. They may feel demotivated by failures, but you know for sure that they are capable individuals.
8.    You bring joy into my life: Children light up our lives from the moment they are born. Parenting brings with it extreme highs and lows. We usually complain about them at length to whoever listens. They are often still one of the greatest sources of reward, and joy in the life of a parent. Let your child know that.

Trio World Academy is one of the best international schools in Bangalore offering IB PYP and IB DP.  For more details about IB DP admissions at Trio World Academy, you can visit us here