In
an earlier post titled ‘Things you should not say to your kids during
exam season’, we examined some phrases which might be detrimental to
your child. Words can be used to heal or harm. When used in the right
way, the right words can bring you closer to your child. It can give
them a sense of safety, encouragement, confidence and inspiration.
Here are some of the things that you can say to your child often:
1. Listen to them:
Listening is often more important that speaking, during a conversation.
You might be surprised that you do not know all the problems that your
child is facing at school or with peers. Make it known that despite your
own busy schedule and stress, you acknowledge their concerns.
2. I am here for you:
Assure them that no matter what they are going through, you are
available to support them. This does not excuse them from being
accountable for their mistakes. However, they need to know that you will
stand by them as they work their way through any situation
3. Appreciate the effort:
“I really appreciate how hard you worked for … “ or “You put in some
great efforts to ..” helps your child know that the process and effort
matters as much or even more as their achievements at the end.
Motivating them to put in more hard work is a lot easier from this
place.
4. Offer specific praise:
Eg. “You have organised your study schedule very well, with sufficient
time for revision and play.” is an example of praising a very specific
effort of your child. It reflects your own part in taking the time to
understand your child’s efforts. It shows that you notice and care.
5. You do not have to be perfect:
Setting absolute perfection as the standard can make your child feel
disappointed and demotivated. Letting them know that trying for massive
improvement and excellence over perfection sets the tone for far more
progress.
6. I love you:
Failures, challenges, mistakes and difficult days should not change the
fact that you love your child. Remind them of this everyday.
7. I believe in you:
Let your children know that you believe in their abilities, talents and
dreams. They may feel demotivated by failures, but you know for sure
that they are capable individuals.
8. You bring joy into my life:
Children light up our lives from the moment they are born. Parenting
brings with it extreme highs and lows. We usually complain about them at
length to whoever listens. They are often still one of the greatest
sources of reward, and joy in the life of a parent. Let your child know
that.
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